21 Self-Reflection Questions Every Expat Should Ask (+ The Science Behind Why It Matters)

This article explores the power of self-reflection for expats, offering a neuroscience-backed approach to navigating identity shifts, emotional resilience, and cultural adaptation. It provides 21 deep self-reflection questions to help expats process their experiences, stay grounded, and grow personally while living abroad.

Maayan & Gal Founders of Smoozitive

Wednesday, January 29, 2025

Living abroad is like diving into a rich, vibrant painting—layers of colors, textures, and surprises everywhere you turn. But amidst the excitement, expat life comes with its challenges: the occasional bout of homesickness, administrative hurdles, identity shifts, and those moments when you stop and wonder, Who am I?

Yes, we love laughing about these identity-questioning moments—because let’s be honest, what better coping mechanism is there than humor? But when the jokes fade, we’re left with real moments of BIG questions and small answers.

That’s why we love self-reflection—the unsung hero of personal growth. It’s more than just a trendy wellness tip; it’s a science-backed tool for fostering resilience, clarity, and purpose. For expats, self-reflection isn’t just helpful; it’s transformative.

In this article, we’ll explore why introspection is so powerful, how to do it effectively, and share 21 self-reflection questions to help you navigate the unique highs and lows of life abroad.

Why Self-Reflection Is a Lifeline for Expats

Moving abroad is like hitting the "reset" button on your life. Suddenly, you’re navigating a new language, customs, and ways of being. While thrilling, this shift often triggers a neurobiological response—a mix of excitement and stress. Your brain, specifically the amygdala (your fear center), might interpret cultural differences as threats, creating anxiety or overwhelm.

Self-reflection helps you calm the storm. When you reflect, you engage your prefrontal cortex, the brain’s executive decision-maker, which brings clarity and emotional regulation. Through this lens, reflection becomes a way to:

  • Make sense of the change: Processing new experiences helps your brain integrate them into your identity.
  • Enhance emotional resilience: By noticing and labeling emotions, you reduce their intensity (a mindfulness trick backed by neuroscience).
  • Stay grounded: Reflection connects you to your core values, creating a sense of stability even in unfamiliar surroundings.

In NLP terms, self-reflection strengthens your "meta-position"—the ability to step back, observe yourself, and approach challenges with curiosity instead of reactivity.

The Real-Life Benefits of Introspection Abroad

Cultivating Emotional Regulation

Imagine this: You’re trying to buy groceries in a new store, and your attempt to find your favorite ingredients falls flat. Frustration bubbles up.

Self-reflection gives you the tools to pause and ask: What am I really feeling? Maybe it's disappointment, some levels of confusion, or even fatigue. By identifying the root emotion, you can soothe yourself and move forward.

Strengthening Your Sense of Identity

When you leave your home country, pieces of your identity might feel scattered. Are you still the same person? Reflecting on who you are, beyond cultural labels, helps you reconstruct your identity in a way that feels authentic and whole.

Boosting Creativity and Problem-Solving

Research shows that introspection fuels creative thinking by allowing your brain to connect seemingly unrelated ideas. For example, when reflecting on how you’ve adapted to a new work culture, you might discover innovative ways to blend your strengths with local practices.​

How to Self-Reflect: 5 Mindful Steps

Self-reflection doesn’t require a yoga mat or candles (though feel free to bring them along!). Here’s a neuroscience-backed method to get started:​

  • Pause and Breathe: ​
    Your brain loves structure. Start your reflection with a few deep breaths to calm your nervous system and create mental space. This primes your mind for introspection.
    We recommend you take a notebook to write down your reflections. Physically writing things down truly helps our brains to process the information.
  • ​Identify & Name the Emotion: 
    With your eyes closed, ask yourself ‘What am I feeling right now?’.
    Without judgment. Pure observation. According to neuroscience, simply naming what you’re feeling reduces its power. Are you anxious, excited, or uncertain? Naming it activates your prefrontal cortex, helping you gain control.
  • Ask a Gentle Question: 
    Avoid judgmental “why” questions like ‘Why am I struggling?’ Instead, use “what” or “how” prompts like ‘What’s one small thing I can learn from today?’ or ‘How can I show myself kindness right now?
  • Connect to Your Values: 
    Link your reflections to what matters most to you. For instance, if you value adventure, remind yourself that even tough days are part of the journey. 

    Little bonus tip: if you’re not sure what your core values are, check this free Personal Values Assessment. It’s really good, takes a couple minutes, and will give you a clear understanding of your values.
  • ​Take a Tiny Action: 
    Reflection is only as good as the actions it inspires. If you realize you’re feeling disconnected, schedule a coffee with a local friend or join a class.

21 Self-Reflection Questions for Expats​

Let’s dive into questions that’ll help you uncover insights, heal emotional wounds, and spark personal growth:

Navigating Cultural Differences​

1. What’s one cultural norm here that I’ve grown to appreciate?​

2. Have I made assumptions about this culture that I now see differently?

3. How do I show respect for this culture while staying true to myself?

Emotional Well-Being

4. When I feel homesick, what do I truly miss, and how can I recreate that feeling here?

5. What’s one recent moment of joy I experienced, no matter how small?

6. How can I be more patient with myself during tough days?

Identity and Growth

7. Who am I becoming through this experience, and do I like this version of me?

8. What old habits or beliefs have I let go of since moving here?

9. What new strengths have I developed?

Relationships

10. How do I nurture friendships across borders?

11. Am I building meaningful connections here, or staying in my comfort zone?

12. How can I express gratitude to the people supporting me on this journey?

Purpose and Goals

13. What’s one thing I want to accomplish in the next month?

14. How does living here align with my long-term dreams?

15. What’s something new I want to try while I’m here?

Here are a couple more questions you can ask yourself, almost on a daily basis:

16. What went well today, and what am I grateful for?

17. What challenges have I seen as opportunities recently?

18. Did my actions align with my values and goals today?

19. What does this feeling (sadness, fear, love, enjoyment, anger…) come to tell me?

20. Is there anything I should forgive, or let go of, to make myself breathe more lightly and feel better?

And last but not least, one of our favorite self-reflective questions:

21. Is this really true?

This super powerful question comes to challenge our beliefs and thoughts that run through our brain. We each think on average between 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. That’s a lot of thoughts!

… don’t believe everything that you think ;) challenge it at times, and you’ll be surprised by what you find out.

When Reflection Turns into Overthinking

Here’s a truth bomb: Self-reflection has a dark side. When we obsess over mistakes or dwell on "what ifs," it becomes counterproductive, leading to stress or paralysis. This is called rumination, and it’s the brain’s way of spinning its wheels without moving forward.

If you’re stuck in a reflection spiral, try these strategies:

  • Zoom out: Ask yourself, Will this matter a year from now?
  • Move your body: A quick walk interrupts overthinking and shifts your focus.
  • Shift to gratitude: Reflect on what’s going well instead of what’s missing.

Final Thoughts: Reflection as Your Expat Compass​

Self-reflection isn’t just a nice-to-have—it’s your compass in the wilderness of expat life. By tuning into your thoughts and feelings, you can navigate challenges, celebrate growth, and stay connected to your core.

The next time you feel overwhelmed or lost in translation, grab this list of questions, find a quiet moment, and start exploring. The answers might surprise you, inspire you, or simply remind you: you’ve got this.

Because wherever you are in the world, the most important journey is the one within.

Maayan & Gal Founders of Smoozitive

​Among other things they are dreamers, doers, sisters and of course living abroad. ​They strongly believe that moving and living abroad can and should be the experience we dream of rather than the one we fear. They dedicated their business (and their time and energy) to make sure that happens for as many people as possible. Smoozitive is where you start creating a life you actually enjoy living, no matter where you are.

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